Hi, I am Julia Jay. I would love to help you explore answers to the struggle you are currently experiencing. Do you currently know a counselor you can call or text any time, any day, and talk to about your problems personally? I did not think so, well that’s why I a created Adamstown Touch of Peace. You can call me, no not a secretary, I will personally answer the phone (or if I am busy I will return your call within 24 hours). I will personally discuss your situation to see if counseling is right for you.
Whether the problem right now is finances, children, your marriage, housing issues, a family addiction, Children and Youth involvement, sexual issues, or abuse in the home, I believe I can offer lasting help that works.
I can be contacted 24 hours a day (in person) for any problem at 717-484-1253 (if I do not get back to you within a couple hours feel free to call or text my cell phone at 717-587-2025).
People often seek the assistance of a confidential professional who will listen, as you process the pain currently being experienced, and help you navigate the best solution to change your situation. Often, when we figure out handling our problems alone is not resulting in significant REAL CHANGE . It is then one may reach out for professional help.
Regardless of the problem severity in your current situation, I can offer a personalized hand of hope in your journey. Whether you in the various stages of life: childhood, adolescence, singleness, marriage, parenting, career moves, grief – loss, addictions, retirement or dealing with an elderly parents decline, I can help you.
This site is all about tools- the tools you need for relationship building and coping. Tools for communication, tools for knowing yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually. Trusted advice and tips on healthy well-being are always in process on this site, so please explore around and feel free to contact me at
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Most pain is caused by injured relationships. Your entire house could have burned to the ground and all your earthly possessions lost, and this will not compare to the devastation of a cheating spouse, a wayword child, or an abusive parent. Just as woundedness is created in relationship… so too, hope is found in relationship!!!
However, relationships are hard work, so don’t be easily fooled. Furthermore, I submit, from life experience, I have been there….. ( I have been married for nearly 40 years, to a man who is my polar opposite in every way, together we raised dozens of children and ministered in the church for over 25 years…and to this day often I am alone and lonely. I beseech you, even if you absolutely cannot feel or find any hope in your relationships … you can still ABSOLUTELY find peace within yourself when you learn to use the tools for becoming your best self!
My promise to you is I will be here to support you personally for any questions and to walk you through this journey. I would love to hear from you so pick up the phone and give me a call. I am not internet savvy so please excuse the slow continued work on this website. If you want to look around my blog there are several topics I discuss in detail that may relate to you. I strive to keep my advice simple : no problem is too big or too small. Call me and we can talk to see if your problem needs therapeutic intervention or often times people just need to communicate the situation to a professional and guidance can be suggested or referrals made via the phone intake.
If you want to learn about legal rights, custody, termination of parental rights- I can provide the information you may need, often with only one session or phone call.
If you need parenting expertise, get it here, from an experienced parent, experienced foster parent, experienced adoptive parent, experienced caseworker and experienced therapist. Many professional have all the correct book smarts but few can help you navigate the expansive undertaking of being in relationship with another life, or exploring why you continue to find yourself in crisis.
Adoption is one area of my expertise, grief is another. In graduate school these were my obsessions. Why, because they related to me personally, they were the woundedness in my life that I needed healed. May I warn you before you begin, healing is a process. Healing is rarely a one size fits all or a quick fix.
I also have many other skills that I offer professionally- not just therapeutic relationship building. If you have a problem with Children and Youth- I know the navigation of that specialty.
Looking for Marriage help? Again look at your professionals of today- can they maintain their own personal marriage? How many (successful) years have they been married? I can say I have been married 38 years to the same man and the father of my children, in this decade that fact itself puts me in a minority.
The church is likely the only professional place counsel is provided by successful experienced married couples and even then the reality is: the church has a 50 % rate of divorce.
I have met very few marriage counselors who have heeded their counseling advice themselves. Actually, the person I learned the most from as a marriage and singles counselor has been married 5 times…just saying. We are all imperfect, we all make mistakes. The question is not answered by the number of mistakes we make, rather, what do we take away from our mistakes? If I knew anyone, I mean anyone, who does what I do, I would refer clients to them and just live the life of a retired person (which I admit I sorta do most of my time). The main culprit of divorce is our current concept of marriage. People enter into marriage hoping their partner will make them happy. I have learned, through painful experience, marriage does not make anyone happy for long…marriage is to make us HOLY not happy…if you do not want the LARGENESS and suffering of marriage: I suggest you stay single!
Here is a great article if you are interested in the topic. of marriage ,http://www.theblaze.com/
In my 30 year professional interactions, I have yet to meet a parenting professional that has actually parented the hard to raise child to success. I have yet to meet a marriage professional who has not put in the hard work of negotiation, compromise, adjustment and personal sacrifice.
Who can’t raise the perfectionist child? Who can’t raise average kids with supportive husband and family members? Anyone can love people who are loving, but can you love someone who you do not even like? Yes you can…but not without putting in the hard work!
If you think your a good parent- well take in 4 or 5 neglected, or abused kids, take in other nationalities, other religions, other races, mentally ill children, then come talk to me about your parenting tips! Until then all the perfect parents out there should keep your opinions relevant to your own experiences, stop judging others, and thank God every day for what you have.
I do what I do to help others in a real way. I hope by offering free resources- free insights- free blogs- free correspondence that I hope will lead you to find the information to heal yourself in a meaningful way without my personal interventions.
Regardless of income, diagnosis, sexuality, spirituality, I believe I can help anyone who is willing to explore change. I charge nominal fees for individual sessions and I only take clients who are unable to find their paths via the explored education as I have discussed earlier.
If you have good insurance call your insurance company and try conventional counseling first(Good Luck).
If you are poor try public social services first(Worse Luck).
I prefer to work with people who want change and are willing to do the real work of change. I offer hope to the hopeless, because I believe everyone is entitled some hope in this often hopeless world.
Please explore my pages, diagnosis yourself or look under the diagnosis given to you by my links and get on the path to your authentic unique journey of healing. If you get stuck, do not hesitate to call me or contact me via email or phone for free personal consultation.
My mission goal: I strive to enhance the journey for wounded sojourners, I strive to become an agent of change enabling others to make meaningful relationships and connections with this world. I strive to show compassion to those others who have given up hope of healing. I strive to become a wounded healer.
If your problem is with others, you may want to authentically answer the relationship quiz for insight (on my blog) into your current relationships issues.
But first answer these questions about yourself. Hope begins with this question. Do you really know who you are ? Do you know what you want out of life? Do you know why you do the things you do? As you honestly explore these answers, you will find peace, regardless of the problem. DO you want change in your life: are you willing to put the hard work into change at this time?
Reality is often those who we desire relationship with: our parents, our children our siblings….often have already decided they do not want relationship with us. These relationships can only be healed if both parties want to build relationship, I have relationship expertise and I can teach you tools to build relationships but in the end you have to start with you, and no matter how much you change, some people just do not want a close relationship(due to the fact they do not want to change or adjust their expectations of you). I have often wanted to throw in the towel on many of my own relationships…I try to keep my relationship expectations low but I feel the pain just like many of you…children who love me but do not like me, brothers who reject me and have cut themselves out of any contact with me.
I know the pain of having given parenting my best shot and in the end after 35 years of parenting…I am too heartbroken at the resulting relationships with my adult children. I must admit, all 7 of my children did come out to be amazing adults and I am so proud of who they have become, they were all blessed to have personalities which gravitate toward my husband and none of them were burdened to have a difficult generational personality flaw similar to mine, thank goodness. What can one do when you have a personality which is more matter of fact, argumentative, blunt and confrontative than those you love?
Do the best you can…. that is what! Keep trying to work through difficulties, grow and learn from your mistakes and pray pray pray. I am thankful I have learned to grieve my expectations, grieve my grandchildren, grieve my siblings , grieve my nieces and nephews…. Although nothing came out like I planned, I thought I did the best I could have. I refuse to beat myself up over the decisions my grown children have made to avoid difficulties …I wait and I pray and and I allow God to transform me through the pain of suffering. I pray daily that I keep my heart open, tender and willing to change. However, I must prepare for the possibility of more pain in the years to come.
Where did we get the idea if we did it all right(or did our best under difficult situations) ….we would come out with great kids? why do we think, if we married MR. Right, we would smoothly sail through years of happiness. If you per chance had that experience, you are the MINORITY. Thankfully, its likely you will never need the assistance of a therapist.
I am pretty upfront with the fact, sometimes there are no easy answers. However, I can help you ask the questions, I can help you process the pain and share your journey, I can help you navigate how to keep going on and I can offer hope that YOU can change. The fact remains, WE CANNOT CHANGE others. As my mentor would often say “you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink”, our goal should not be to force others to drink, rather we can “salt the oats” and through our example we can make others thirsty, in the end that is all we can do. We can change us…that is it …and personal change is hard, it takes hard work. This is a job that is best done in union with others, counselors, support groups, friends and family. Support from even one person can make the difficult transition doable.
We can be open to relationships- we can keep our hearts tender, we can grow, learn and become better humans. We can teach through example, imperfect as we are, we can find hope in God and hope in ourselves. We can forgive and be willing to change to meet others where they are, but if they choose to remain in a resistant state to our love, we often have to choose to love without ever obtaining the intimate relationship we desire. We do better when we know better, we cannot do what we do not know. We cannot expect from others what they cannot give. Hope comes when we learn, we grow and we accept others where they are, and when we put the work into changing ourselves. Change is a process and if you really want to change, you really want to find peace…I offer Adamstown Touch of Peace. Call me 717-484-1253 today to schedule an appointment.
Take a minute to examine how vulnerable you are willing to allow yourself to be? Knowing yourself and being vulnerable is part of the therapeutic process, learning relationship tools can give you control over your relationships so this is a great place to start.
Sad to say. the counseling field has become …like politics, medical health care, banking, CYS, Office of Aging, Veterans Associations and services, Social Security and thousands of other agencies.. A SAD SAD JOKE. It’s all about money money money…(the main reason I do not take any insurances!) Today the solution most counselors give comes in a pill form and that is why addiction has gone completely out of control, and people are drowning their sorrows in overuse of drugs, alcohol, smoking pot, and numbing the pain of life in distraction( fanatical religion, computers, TV, Utube, sports, or just constant busi- ness(the church is huge on this!!! ) Because of this, I try to make my rates affordable so you can get the help you need.